Affirmations have long been considered a powerful tool for developing new beliefs and building self-confidence. There is a brand new study from Carnegie Mellon University that proves the effectiveness of affirmations to protect against the impact of stress.
The study used self-affirmations that focused on values important to the individual to boost problem solving abilities in stressed-out individuals. Another study said that affirmations helped students get better grades.
It's always interesting when science catches up with the intuitive wisdom of coaches, counselors and healers. Affirmations can play a powerful role in your personal journey and your work with clients.
Here are a few ways to use them with clients.
1. Creating Ritual
Rituals build trust and continuity. Try starting or ending a session by drawing a random affirmation. If used at the beginning of a session you can weave it into the conversation. If you use an affirmation at the end of the session you might ask the client how it applies to what you have just discussed or adapt it for use as a homework inquiry. For example – "I am open" the inquiry might be – "What is it to be open?"
2. Introducing Stimulus
When a client doesn't know what to talk about or is stuck, introducing a bit of stimulus can open things up. Have the client draw a random affirmation. Explore how it lands with them and see where it takes you both.
*If you work on the phone, connect with your client and tell them you have cards in front of you or in a bowl – tell them what you are doing – i.e swirling your hand in a bowl of cards, and invite them to tell you when to pick a card.
3. Supporting the 'Work'
Ask the client to choose an affirmation that will support the work they are doing with you. If they have their own affirmation deck this is easy. If you have the deck, throw out some possibilities. It's important for the client to choose. Through your conversation you can deepen the meaning, adapt the affirmation as needed and connect it to values. Together find ways the affirmation can continue to support them.
Hopefully these ideas will get your own creative juices flowing so feel free to adapt, combine or come up with your own unique approach.
Using affirmations will result in a reduction of stress and a feeling of empowerment as you and your clients embrace new thoughts and enjoy the feeling of change.
Below are three affirmation decks that can support your work with clients. Consider including a deck as part of a new client welcome package.
1. I Love Myself More Affirmation Cards$20.95 Sale $15.95
The 52 cards are filled with inspirational, loving, and healing messages.
"As I love myself more…I know I am safe and protected in all I do."
As part of our ongoing 10 Year Anniversary celebration, It’s time to select the Coaching Toys 2013 "Art Of The Heart" Product Award. This is award number 3 and the last one to be awarded in this series.
The“Art Of The Heart ” product award category is all about the ‘heart’ of being human; connecting with spirit, intuition, personal growth and deep acknowledgement. The four product finalists are all standouts in this category. Take a look and vote for your favorite!
Introducing the four nominees for the "Art Of The Heart" Product Award:
1. Enrichuals Cards Encouragement, wisdom and inspiration are at the heart of this delightful deck of 64 cards. Each card has an engaging collage image on one side and powerful writing on the other. The words on each card are rich, wise and packed full of ideas, exercises and perspectives to ponder. One card might encourage you to create a joy jar, another to create a collage of possibility, another might offer a new perspective or invite you to stretch a little. Very few card decks pack so much in. Whether used as a journal prompt, part of a daily ritual, or even in a workshop setting, these cards celebrate the human spirit and invite growth. Another powerful contender for the “Art Of The Heart” Product Award.
If you are looking for a fun, meaningful way to nurture a child’s self-esteem, Manifest Magnificence for Kids is a perfect choice. The images on the cards appeal to the child in all of us and the affirmations are perfect for children. “I am” is such a powerful statement. “I am an explorer”, “I am amazing”, “I am growing” and “I am original” are all examples from the deck. The intention behind this deck is important for all of us as our children are our future. Imagine the impact of a colorful affirmation card stuck in your child’s book bag or lunch box every day. A child’s confidence effects all areas of their lives from ability to learn to interactions with others. This product is loaded with passion and heart and stands tall in the “Art Of The Heart” Product Award category.
Simple and sacred are the two words I would use to describe the Spirit Cards. The words are paired with a simple affirmation. The words in the red box are paired with the affirmation “I Am…” The words in the orange box are paired with “I Will…..”. The look, feel and energy of these cards always puts me in a ritual state. The words fit in the palm of your hand and if you take a moment, you can feel the prayerful energy infused into them by their author. Take a deep breath, center yourself and draw a card. The word you choose, paired with the affirmation will touch your soul in just the perfect way, as if spirit is tapping you on the shoulder and whispering….you are love….you are freedom…you are powerful, you are….. Spirit Cards definitely exemplify “Art Of The Heart.
Creating a vision for your life is a powerful gift to give yourself and the Unfolding Your Life Vision Kit takes it to a new level. This very cool kit invites you into a creative, artistic process that engages your heart, captures your vision and elicits energy every time you look at it. Making your vision visual allows you to touch, see and enjoy the energy of it whenever you want. Creating a vision is an act of courage for many. It is declaring out loud and on paper – this is what I want, this is who I am. A perfect contender for the “Art Of The Heart” Product Award.
Get Ahead the "Tortoise" Way!: Achieve Your Goals at a Pace That Works for You with guest, Sharon Good
If you have big dreams and goals but limited energy, time or health challenges you need to meet Sharon Good, author of “The Tortoise Workbook: Strategies for Getting Ahead at Your Own Pace,”
Life Coach Sharon Good, a self-proclaimed Tortoise, will share her secrets for achieving success at a pace that fits your natural rhythm, while honoring your self-care. You will walk away with strategies that will help you turn your challenges into triumph, and you’ll go away feeling proud to be a Tortoise!
Sharon will share: • What it means to be a “Tortoise” and the challenges we face • Tortoise Heroes – inspiring role models • How to turn your limitations into assets • 10 strategies for getting ahead at your own pace
Tuesday January 25th 11am PT / Noon MT / 1pm CT / 2pm ET / 7pm London via Teleconference
you know there is a 'coaching beat' reporter? His name is Mark Joyella
and he has been hired by Coaching Commons to cover all things coaching.
Mark Joyella recently interviewed me and wanted the scoop on coaching "toys" – the
good the bad and the ugly. We talked for quite awhile and he took a few
snippets of conversation and made a very fun and quirky little video. Check it out here