This week’s Creative Spark is from Practicing Oneness, Gentle encouragement and inspiration for choosing love instead of fear and connection instead of separation . . .  by Ann Strong

Releasing Our Grip

Personal growth often involves loosening our grip on our thoughts, identities and all that our ego holds dear. As a young adult, I had zero tolerance when someone told me, "I don’t know." I needed them to stop acting wimpy and weak, to make a decision. I wanted them to know! Now I know that my lack of tolerance really centered around my need to be in charge.

If we don’t need to control, then we don’t need to know. We can go with the flow. We can follow energy, rather than rules. We can try black AND white. We can accept this AND that. We can live in the present moment and respond to that moment, rather than react from situations in the past or to what we think must be done for the future. We can connect more deeply with others, learning the value of “their” ways, too.

What thoughts or identities do you hold tightly?

The next time you hear yourself saying, “It must be done this (read “my”) way,” take some time to explore what you are holding so tightly. Ask yourself, “Is it true, absolutely true, that it must be done that way?” Challenge yourself to find three or five other ways it could be done. Give some thought to why someone else would do it differently. Begin to notice similarities rather than differences.

Releasing our grip may mean we "know" less, but feel more alive. And more free. Releasing our grip allows more harmony as we stop fighting with others or with life itself.

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